Mom Crush Monday!
Happy Monday!! On Mondays, we crush on moms! I think we all agree that being a mom is one of the hardest but most rewarding jobs on the planet. It has been a pleasure to use this platform to celebrate and acknowledge other mothers. It would be remiss of me to let today end without giving a huge shoutout to this amazing mom, teacher, and friend Renee! I first met Renee through a very close friend of mine when she was pregnant with little Layla. Years later, we all took a girls’ trip to Texas for a Bachelorette weekend. We totally hit it off; She’s fun, witty, and overall great energy. In our last conversation, we chatted about being a mom and raising kids
So Renee, introduce yourself to the readers
Hi Everyone! My name is Renee and I’m a 31 year old wife and mommy to an amazing 3 year old. I’m a special education teacher who just finished her 10th year in education. I’m definitely a city girl! ❤️NYC
What would you say is the hardest part about raising kids?
After much reflection, I think the hardest part is what I call the “mirror image”. Layla, my daughter, is me through and through. Not only did she copy my face, but she has my entire personality. The good parts and the parts that I try to hide. So when correcting her I often feel like a hypocrite. It’s forced me to really reflect and make a conscious effort to be my best self to model that for her.
Of course, I couldn’t just think of one! Another challenge for me is being a working mom. As a teacher, I give my students 100% of me every single day. Being a mom and a wife, I found that I was short changing the #1 people in my life. My family would get whatever was left of me. (Which wasn’t a lot) Some weeks are better than others. So I take it day by day and when something doesn’t go well, I reflect and try to do better the next time. That’s all I can do.
What advice would you give moms about raising passionate kids?
I think to raise passionate kids, we have to give them opportunities to explore, make choices and most importantly have a voice. Respect their wants and ideas. Let them know you value their thoughts. The old school way of thinking; “children should be seen and not heard” bothers my soul and does not fly in this household. I teach her to speak up if she doesn’t like something. We role play all the time. I need to make sure that she is able to speak up for what she wants (or doesn’t want) and knows how to do it in a respectful but assertive way.
Additionally, I try to expose her to different activities and hobbies. Her love for dance, specifically ballet, is evident to anyone who knows her. I want her to know that if she loves something she has to put her all into it.
What advice would you give moms about achieving their personal goals while raising kids?
“Remember your why.” If the goal is important enough to you, you’ll find a way to get it done. You won’t be too tired to work on it. It will be exciting and not seem like another mundane task. However, you do need to plan. You’re not magically going to have all this time to spend working on it. So if it’s important, plan it into your day ahead of time. Even if it’s only 10 mins. I set alarms on my phone all the time. This has really helped to hold me accountable. I also visualize how I will feel when I accomplish this goal and that’s usually a big motivator when completing personal or professional goals.
What’s one self/ care practice that you enjoy?
I recently began using Ipsy. So once a month I get a box of skin care products/makeup and everyday I spend at least 10 minutes using them. It has been a game changer!
What would you say is your poised mom power #pmp ?
I would say my pmp is to always find the good in situations. Even when there’s not a lot or it seems non existent. This has allowed me to take what seemed like a terrible day, but still hold on to the 5 mins that made me smile.
I’m trying to pass this on to Layla as well. Every night before bed, we share the best part of our days and then the part that wasn’t so good. Hopefully by doing this, she’ll realize I didn’t have a bad day. It was just a bad moment.
Where can other moms find / follow you online?
I’m always on social media and have recently limited my time as it just became too much. You can find me on Instagram: @Reneezzi